Each month founder Toni Jones, a wellbeing journalist and self-help geek, highlights a book that has changed her life for the better, sharing content and wisdom from the titles on the Shelf Help Facebook and Instagram pages, as well as holding IRL meetups and author events.

July’s Book of the Month:

Pause: How to Press Pause Before Life Does it For You by Danielle Marchant

Get your copy here – book, kindle, audible.


We check our phones an average of 221 times a day, we have apps that help us sleep and remind us to be mindful while we secretly measure our success in ‘likes’. Time is our luxury and yet with technology we are never able to leave the office, even when we aren’t there. The fear of missing out makes us rush from one thing to the next, not really taking any of it in.

Pause allows you to finally put yourself, your feelings and your intuition first. Learning to say no, doing the things that make you feel good, and not doing the things that don’t make you feel good – these are not self-indulgent. Listening to your own heart and wisdom doesn’t make you selfish, slowing down to appreciate your life isn’t lazy or unambitious. It is an ancient message, but still just as strong; when you pause to take care of yourself and your own life, you become the person you’re meant to be.


Lots of self-help books tell us what we should and shouldn’t be DOING, but this is a book that encourages just ‘BEING’. To just pause, take a breath, see what emerges and consider the next step from a place of calm, content and connectedness instead of fear, panic or anxiety.

It’s also an invitation to start asking some big questions, you know, the ones you have been too busy/closed/scared to ask before.


Pause, with its gently searching questions and powerful exercises, is a great book for anyone who has been thrown a major curve ball recently, or who is in the midst of crisis. But it’s also a brilliant guide for anyone feeling anxious, burned out or stuck, or that there must be more to life.

Danielle Marchant


“Listen to the wind, it talks. Listen to the silence, it speaks. Listen to your heart, it knows.

Native American Proverb

Think of Pause, as a retreat in book form (author Danielle is a life coach who runs retreats all over the world) providing a space and structure for you to start to slow down, rebalance and reconnect with yourself.

Danielle says: “Pause isn’t about finding quick answers but about slowing down enough so you can start asking the right questions. The answers are usually simple. It’s the questions that are hard to hear.”

Pause will hopefully lead to you ask questions such as:

  • What is working right now?
  • What do I need (really need)?
  • What do I want (really want)?
  • What makes me thrive?
  • What is my reason for being?
  • What am I afraid of?
  • What is my first (next) step?

The busier/more chaotic life gets, the more we need to have pit stops in our lives to double-check we’re on the right path. Ready to pause?

You can find out more about Danielle Marchant and Pause on her website.

Tune in to her podcast here. 

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