I am nestled in my hotel room, still buzzing from the four-day rock concert. Also known as Tony Robbins’ Unleash the Power Within. Music, dancing, backrubs, hugs… Tears, fears, regrets, cursing your past… Dancing your tail off. A killer light show. AC/DC cranked. Shouting out some expletive because you are on fire inspired to make bold moves and no other word will suffice, breaking through massive barriers…
Crying for no reason other than you’ve never felt energy like this before and you don’t want it to end. Whooping and hollering because you are so excited for your future. Selfies with strangers. Hugging people just because why wouldn’t you… Suffice to say, it’s been a four-day manic rollercoaster. It’s been one of the single best experiences of my life. I could share with you so many takeaways from this incredible event, but here’s the biggest:
A belief is a feeling of certainty about what something means.
That’s it. Change your beliefs and you can change your life. You really absolutely can. We’ve all heard stories of people who’ve defied the odds, who’ve transformed themselves. They’re no different than you. You have that incredible power inside you too. You just have to believe it.
Unfortunately, many of us walk around professing a lot of limiting beliefs about ourselves. We preach them like gospel and fanatically believe these words. Take a moment to think about it. What limiting beliefs do you have?
I’ve had a weight problem my entire life.
Every guy treats me the same — like crap.
I’ll never make enough money to feel secure.
I’m so busy.
And on and on and on and on…
And what happens when you have these limiting beliefs and reinforce them over and over? You never lose weight. Men treat you like crap. You stay in a financial rut. You have no control over your time (i.e. your life).
It’s the tried and true saying: Ask and ye shall receive!
There are a series of steps to creating lasting change, and you know that’s what I’m all about. Guiding you to create sustainable change that aligns with who you truly want to become and own: To claim your independence, step up and show up, stop the nasty, gnarly scripts running through your mind and out your mouth, and empower yourself to tap into that you who lights you up.
Am I exempt from having limiting beliefs? No way!
I would never treat other people the way I treat myself. I would never say to other people the things I claim to be true about myself. I would never hold over someone else’s head the things I hold over my own. I’ve become hyper aware of these beliefs about myself and even the world. And through that awareness, I am continually moulding a new belief system. It’s a process for all of us. It’s not about ‘fixing’ ourselves, because none of us are broken. It’s about fine tuning ourselves to be the best versions we can be; so we show our appreciation and gratitude for this incredible life and body we’ve been blessed with.
Just as you fine tune an instrument to contribute to a breathtaking piece of music, you have to fine tune you to create your breathtaking life. You will never squeeze all the zest out of life unless you stretch and grow and contribute to yourself. This is the only way you can then contribute to and serve others. It’s easy to get trapped in our limiting beliefs. One thing I learned is that our brains are wired for survival, not happiness. We create these beliefs to help us survive — or so we think. And we can re-create them so we’re not just surviving but thriving.
To help you fine tune you and swap those limiting beliefs with unstoppable, empowering beliefs, I want to share with you a simple solution that’s so much fun, even your most stuck-in-a-rut, woe-is-me pal will want to get on board with it.
6 Steps to Get What You Most Want in Life
1. Identify 3 limiting beliefs that hold you back, that yield negative results in your life.
2. Repeat those limiting beliefs out loud 5 times in the most annoying voice you can imagine. Get your whole body involved. Silly face, nasal voice… Don’t hold back.
3. Raise your right index finger straight up in the air.
4. Circle it over your head three times while repeating your limiting belief in that annoying voice.
5. Bring your finger down and shove it right up your nose while saying ‘That’s bullshit’ (or maybe ‘that’s stupid’ if you’re a more conservative person).
6. Remove your finger from your nose and shout out your new empowering belief. The opposite of your limiting belief. For example: ‘I am strong and healthy’. ‘I am full of love’.. ‘I am abundant and have more than enough’.
What you’ve done here is interrupt your pattern. You’ll be laughing hysterically in no time, which is exactly what you need to counter that stressful, upsetting, Debbie Downer belief. I know it sounds (and looks weird), but this is exactly the kick in the pants your mind needs to show it who’s really the boss of you. Soon, just the thought of that limiting belief will be enough to snap you out of that old habit, which means this new empowering belief will become your new normal.
And here’s the bonus:
Look at those ‘I am’ limiting beliefs. Those are your identity. They might as well be the name on your birth certificate. Instead, I want you to come up with a new, improved, outstanding name for yourself. I want you to come up with a name that states exactly who you are. Some people around me this weekend are now “gladiator,” “Xena,” “legend,” “unstoppable.”
Me? My new identity is “I am Marie.”
Marie is strong. She’s been through a lot of tough times and come through like a champ. Marie has defied odds. She doesn’t back down. She is compassionate and empathetic and full of love. Marie’s the kind of chick I want to hang out with.
What about you? What’s your new name? I know this seems crazy. All I ask is that you try it for three days. If it doesn’t work, go back to what you were doing or find something else. But you never know until you try.Which leads me to the other massive realisation I had this weekend: Outstanding, successful people are willing to try. They are willing to do something different. They don’t do what they’ve always done and what everyone else is doing.
Are you willing to try something different like outstanding, successful people do? What are you willing to do to get what you want? Are you willing to pick your nose to get what you want in life?